RESOURCES

LOCAL & NATIONAL RESOURCES

National Suicide Prevention Hotline 1-800-273-TALK (8255) or visit
www.suicidepreventionlifeline.org

Domestic Violence Coalition 1-888-655-9008 (Van Buren County)

Sylvia’s Place Domestic Abuse Shelter & Services 1-888-411-7837 (Allegan County)

United Way of Van Buren County Resource Guide (hospitals, schools, social services, government offices, and more) Download PDF

other phone numbers for support

Bullying: 1-800-420-1479
Depression: 1-630-482-9696
Eating Disorders: 1-847-831-3438
Grief Support: 1-650-321-3438
Lifeline: 1-800-273-8255
Rape & Sexual Assault: 1-800-656-4673
Runaway: 1-800-843-5200 | 1-800-843-5678
Self Harm: 1-800-DONT CUT
1-800-344-HELP
Suicide: 1-800-784-8433
Trevor Project: 1-866-488-7386
Veterans Suicide Hotline: 1-800-273-8255

twelve-step programs

Alcoholics Anonymous
Al-Anon (for families and friends of alcoholics)
Narcotics Anonymous
Overeaters Anonymous
Gamblers Anonymous
Food Addicts Anonymous
Debtors Anonymous
Sex & Love Addicts Anonymous

SUGGESTED READINGS

ADULTRY

• Adultery: The Forgivable Sin – Bonnie Weil

• After The Affair: Healing The Pain & Rebuilding Trust When a Partner Has Been Unfaithful – Janis Abrahams Spring

• How Could You Do This To Me? Learning To Trust After Betrayal – Dr. Jane Greer

• How To Save Your Marriage From An Affair – Dr. Ronnie Edell

• Infidelity: A Survival Guide – Don & David Lusterman

• Love & Betrayal: Broken Trust In Intimate Relationships – John Amodeo

• Not Just Friends: Rebuilding Trust & Recovering Your Sanity After Infidelity – Shirley Glass

• The Emotional Affair: How To Recognize Emotional Infidelity & What To Do About It – Ronald Potter – Efron

• The Truth of Cheating: Why Men Stray & What You Can Do To Prevent It – Gary Nauman

• When Good People Have Affairs: Inside the Hearts & Minds of People in Two Relationships – Mira Kirshenbaum

• When Your Lover is a Liar: Healing the Wounds of Deception & Betrayal – Susan Forward

Aging

• Aging Without Apology: Living The Senior Years With Integrity & Faith – Robert E. Seymour

• Finding Meaning In The Second Half of Life – James Hollis

Alcoholism

• Adult Children Of Alcoholics – Janet Woititz

• After The Tears: Reclaiming The Losses Of Childhood – Janet Middleton Moe & Lorie Dwinell

• Alcoholism Volumes I, II and III – Toby Drews

• Children Of Alcoholism: A Survivor’s Manual – Judith Seixas

• Get Your Loved One Sober: Alternatives To Nagging, Pleading, & Threatening – Robert Mayers & Brenda Wolfe

• I’ll Quit Tomorrow: A Practical Guide To Alcoholism Treatment – Vernon Johnson

• It Will Never Happen To Me – Claudia Black

• Perfect Daughters: Adult Daughters of Alcoholics – Robert Ackerman

Anger

• Anger: How to Recognize & Cope With It – Leo Madow, M.D.

• Anger: The Misunderstood Emotion – Carol Tavris

• Facing Anger: How To Turn Life’s Most Troublesome Emotion Into A Personal Asset – Norman Rohrer & S. Phillip Sutherland

• The Dance Of Anger – Harriet Lerner

• When Anger Hurts & Quieting The Storm Within – Matthew McKay, Peter Rogers & Judith McKay

Borderline Personality Disorder

• Get Me Out Of Here: My Recovery From Borderline Personality Disorder – Rachel Reiland

• I Hate You, Don’t Leave Me – Jerold J. Kreisman and Hal Strauss

• Stop Walking On Eggshells: Taking Your Life Back When Someone You Care About Has Borderline Personality Disorder – Randi Kreger

• The Essential Family Guide To Borderline Personality Disorder: New Tools & Techniques to Stop Walking on Eggshells – Randi Kreger

Communication

• Crucial Confrontations – Kenny Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler

• Crucial Conversations – Kenny Patterson, Joseph Grenny, Ron McMillan, Al Switzler

• How To Talk So People Will Listen – Steve Brown

• Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus – John Gray

• Please Understand Me – David Keirsey , Marilyn Bates

• The Dance Of Connection – Harriet Lerner

• You Just Don’t Understand Me – Deborah Tanner

Divorce/Ending of Relationship

• Crazy Time: Surviving Divorce and Building A New Life – Abigail Trafford

• How To Break Your Addiction To A Person – Howard Halpern

• How To Survive The Loss Of A Love – Harold Bloomfield

• Obsessive Love: When Passion Holds You Prisoner – Susan Forward

• Rebuilding: When Your Relationship Ends – Bruce Fisher

Domestic Violence

• Free Yourself From An Abusive Relationship – Andrea Lissetle & Richard Kraus

• Stalking: A Handbook For Victims – Emily Spenee – Diehl

• Stopping A Stalker: A Cop’s Guide To Making the System Work For You – Cpt. Robert L. Snow

• Surviving A Stalker: Everything You Need To Know To Keep You Safe – Linden Gross

• The Gift Of Fear – Gavin De Becker

• The Sociopath Next Door – Martha Stout

• The Verbally Abusive Relationship: How to Recognize It & How To Respond – Patricia Evans

• Trauma & Recovery: The Aftermath Of Violence, From Domestic Abuse To Political Terror – Judith Herman

Family of Origin/Healing the Inner Child

• Adult Children: The Secrets of Dysfunctional Families – John Friel & Linda Friel

• Healing The Child Within – Charles Whitfield

• Healing The Shame That Binds You – John Bradshaw

• Homecoming: Reclaiming & Championing Your Inner Child – John Bradshaw

• Your Inner Child Of The Past – Hugh Missildine

• The Magical Child Within You – Bruce Davis

• You Can Heal Yourself – Louise L. Hay

Grief

• A Grief Observed – C.S. Lewis

• A Time To Grieve: Meditations For Grieving After The Death Of A Loved One – Carol Staudacher

• Final Gifts: Understanding The Special Needs & Communications Of The Dying – Maggie Callahan

• Healing After Loss: Daily Meditations For Working Through Grief – Martha Whitmore Hickman

• How To Survive The Loss Of A Love – Harold Bloomfield

• Lessons Of Love: Rediscovering Our Passion For Life When All Seems Too Hard To Take – Melody Beattie

• Losing A Parent – Fidora Marshall

• Surviving Grief & Learning To Live Again – Catherine Sanders

• The Grief Club – Melody Beattie

• The Needs Of The Dying: A Guide For Bringing Hope, Comfort & Love To Life’s Final Chapter – David Kessler

• Wet Earth & Dreams: A Narrative of Grief & Recovery – Jane Lazaure

Life Challenges/Coping Skills

• Anatomy Of An Illness – Norman Cousins

• Broken Open – Elizabeth Lesser

• Get The Junk Out Of Your Trunk: Let Go Of The Past To Live Your Best Life – Duane Vander Klok

• Imperfect Control: Our Lifelong Struggles With Power & Surrender – Judith Viorst

• Lessons of Love: Rediscovering Our Passion For Life When All Seems Too Hard To Take – Melody Beattie

• Living Through Personal Crisis – Ann Kaisey Stearns

• Loving What Is: Four Questions That Can Change Your Life – Byron Katie

• Making Sense Of Suffering: The Healing Confrontation With Your Own Past – J. Konrad Stettbacher

• Rapid Relief From Emotional Distress: A New, Clinically Proven Method For Getting Over Depression & Other Emotional Problems Without Prolonged or Expensive Therapy – Gary Emery & James Campbell

• Tapping The Healer Within: Using Thought Field Therapy To Instantly Conquer Your Fears, Anxieties, & Emotional Distress – Roger J. Callahan & Richard Trubo

• Transitions: Making Sense Of Life Changes: Strategies for Coping With the Difficult, Painful, and Confusing Times in Your Life – William Bridges

• When Life Becomes Worthwhile – Robert E. Seymour

• When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times – Pema Chodron

Marriage

• A Book For Couples – Hugh & Gayle Prather

• Caring & Commitment – Lewis Smedes

• Divorce Busting: A Step By Step Approach To Making Your Marriage Loving Again – Michele Weiner-Davis

• Getting It Right The First Time & Creating A Healthy Marriage – Barry & Emily McCarthy

• How To Improve Your Marriage Without Talking About It – Patricia Love & Steven Stasny

• Keeping The Love You Find – Harville Hendrix

• Keeping The Spark Alive & Preventing Burnout In Love and Marriage – Aylla Pines

• Lies At The Altar: The Truth About Great Marriages – Dr. Robin L. Smith

• Marriage Rules – Harriet Lerner

• Passionate Marriage: Keeping Love & Intimacy Alive In Committed Relationship – David Schnarch

• Proper Care & Feeding Of A Husband – Dr. Laura Schlessinger

• Proper Care & Feeding Of Marriage – Dr. Laura Schlessinger

• The Challenge of Marriage – Rudolf Dreikurs

• The Dance Of Intimacy – Harriet Lerner

• The Five Love Languages – Gary Chapman

• The Marriage Of Sex & Spirit – Edited by Geralyn Gendoeau

• The New Rules of Marriage – Terrence Real

• The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work – John Gottman

• Things I Wish I’d Known Before We Got Married – Gary Chapman

• Too Good to Leave, Too Bad to Stay – Mira Kirshenbaum

Men & Fathers

• Absent Fathers, Lost Sons: Search For Male Identity – Guy Corneau

• Silent Sons – Robert Ackerman

Mid-Life

• Celebrate Mid-Life: Jungian Archetypes & Mid-Life Spirituality – Janice Brewi & Anne Brennan

• Mid-Life: Psychological & Spiritual Perspectives – Janice Brewi & Anne Brennan

• Necessary Loses – Judith Viorst

• New Passages – Gail Sheeny

• The Male Mid-Life Crisis: Fresh Starts After 40 – Nancy Mayer

Mother-Daughter Relationship

• Perfect Women: Daughters Who Love Their Mothers But Don’t Love Themselves – Collette Dowling

• The Mother-Daughter Dance – Harriet Lerner

Narcissism

• It’s All About Him: How To Identify & Avoid The Narcissist Male Before You Get Hurt – Lisa Scott

• Trapped In The Mirror – Elan Golomb

• Why Is It Always About You – Sandy Hotchkiss

Parenting

• 1-2-3 Magic: Effective Discipline For Children – Thomas Phelan

• Becoming The Parent You Want To Be: A Sourcebook Of Strategies For The First Five years – Laura Davis & Janis Keyser

• Caring For Your Baby & Young Child 5th Edition : Birth To Age 5 – American Academy of Pediatrics

• Dr. Spock’s Baby & Child Care: 8th Edition – Benjamin Spock & Robert Needlman

• Gymboree Play & Learn: 1001 Fun Activities For Your Baby & Child (Gymboree Play & Music) – Dr. Roni Cohen Leiderman & Dr.Wendy Masi

• Mom Book: 4278 Of Mom Central’s Tips For Moms – Stacy DeBroff

• Mom’s House, Dad’s House: Making Two Homes For Your Child – Isolina Ricci

• Positive Discipline – Jane Nelson

• Siblings Without Rivalry: How to Help Your Children Live Together So You Can Live Too – Adele Faber & Elaine Mazlish

• The Big Book Of Parenting Solutions: 101 Answers To Your Everyday Challenges & Wildest Worries – Michele Borba

• The Happiest Baby On The Block – Harvey Karp

• The Mommy Guide – Susan Bernard

Passive-Aggressive Behavior

• Angry Men, Passive Men: Understanding the Root of Men’s Anger & How To Move Beyond It – Marvin Allen

• Living With The Passive Aggressive Man: Coping with This Frustrating Miscommunication Between Men & Women – Scott Wetzler

Relationship

• Addictive Relationships: Reclaiming Your Boundaries – Jay Miller

• All Titles By – John A. Sanford

• Beyond Co-Dependency – Melody Beattie

• Co-Dependent No More – Melody Beattie

• Conscious Loving: The Journey To Commitment: A Way To Be Together Without Giving Up Yourself – Gay & Kathlyn Hendricks

• Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth – John Bradshaw

• Crucial Confrontations – Kerry Patterson et al

• Crucial Conversations – Kerry Patterson et al

• Getting The Love You Want: A Guide for Couples – Harville Hendrix

• Getting To “I Do” – Dr. Patricia Allen

• How To Heal A Painful Relationship & If Necessary Part As Friends – Bill Ferguson

• How To Talk So People Will Listen – Steve Brown

• Keeping The Love You Find: A Guide for Singles – Harville Hendrix

• Love & Intuition – Sherrie Dillard

• Please Understand Me – David Keirsey & Marilyn Bates

• Real Love: The Truth About Finding Unconditional Love & Fulfilling Relationships – Greg Baer, M.D.

• Receiving Love: Transform Your Relationship By Letting Yourself Be Loved – Harville Hendrix & Helen Lakelly Hunt

• Smart Women, Foolish Choices: Finding The Right Men, Avoiding The Wrong Ones – Drs. Connell Cowan & Melvyn Kidder

• Struggle For Intimacy – Janet Woititz

• Telling The Truth: Growing Up To Intimacy & Freedom – Brad Blanton

• The Dance Away Lover & Other Roles We Play In Love, Sex & Marriage – Daniel Goldstine, Katherine Larner, Shirley Zuckerman & Hilary Goldstine

• The Dance Of Anger – Harriet Lerner

• The Seven Levels of Intimacy: The Art of Loving & The Joy of Being Loved – Matthew Kelly

• The Solo Partner: Repairing Your Relationship On Your Own – Phil DeLuca

• The Two Step: The Dance Toward Intimacy – Ellen McCann

• Ultimate Partners: Patterns In Love & Marriage – Maggie Scarf

• What You Feel, You Can Heal – John Gray

• Women Who Love Too Much: When You Keep Wishing & Hoping He’ll Change – Robin Norwood

Self-Care/Positive Attitudes

• All God’s Children Are Lost, But Only A Few Can Play the Piano – Sheldon Knopp

• Any Title By – Robert A. Johnson

• Born to Win – Muriel James

• Change Your Mind, Change Your Life – Gerald Jampolsky & Diane V. Cirincione

• Co-Dependent No More: Beyond Co-Dependency – Melody Beattie

• Creating Love: The Next Great Stage of Growth – John Bradshaw

• Daring Greatly – Brene Brown

• Fear & Other Uninvited Guests: Tackling The Anxiety, Fear & Shame That Keeps Us From Living & Loving – Harriet Lerner

• Finding A Life That Is Truly Your Own – Sheldon Kopp

• Focusing: Step By Step Technique That Takes You Past Getting in Touch with Your Feelings- To Change Them & Solve Your Personal Problems – Eugene Gendlin

• Forgive & Forget: Healing the Hurts We Don’t Deserve – Lewis Smedes

• Full Catastrophe Living: Using The Wisdom Of Your Body & Mind To Face Stress, Pain & Illness – Jon Kabat- Zinn

• Gifts From The Sea – Anne Morrow Lindberg

• Guilt Is The Teacher, Love Is The Answer – Joan Borysenko

• Healing The Shame That Binds You – John Bradshaw

• Homecoming: Reclaiming & Championing Your Inner Child – John Bradshaw

• Negaholics – Cherie Carter- Scott

• One Minute for Myself – Spencer Johnson

• Pathway of Self-Transformation – Eva Pierrakos

• Take Time For Your Life: A Personal Coach’s 7-Step Program For Creating The Life You Want – Cheryl Richardson

• Taking the Leap: Freeing Ourselves From Old Habits & Fears – Pema Chodron

• The Anxiety & Phobia Workbook – Edmund Bourne

• The Art of Possibility: Transforming Professional And Personal Life – Rosamund Stone Zander

• The Book Of Qualities – J. Ruth Gendler

• The Examined Life: How We Lose & Find Ourselves – Stephen Grosz

• The Precious Present – Spencer Johnson

• The Right Questions: Ten Essential Questions To Guide You To An Extraordinary Life – Debbie Ford

• When Helping You Is Hurting Me: Escaping The Messiah Trap – Carren Renee Berry

• Woulda, Coulda, Shoulda: Overcoming Regrets, Mistakes, & Missed Opportunities – Dr. Arthur Freeman & Rose Dewolf

• You Can’t Afford The Luxury Of A Negative Thought – Peter McWilliams

• Your Body Doesn’t Lie: Unlock The Power of Your Natural Energy – John Diamond

Sex Abuse/Molestation

• Courage To Heal – Ellen Bass

• Ghosts In The Bedroom: A Guide for Partners of Incest Survivors – Ken Graber

• Healing Your Sexual Self – Janet Woititz

• The Emotional Incest Syndrome – Dr. Patricia Love & Jo Robinson

• Trauma & Recovery: The Aftermath of Violence, From Domestic Abuse To Political Terror – Judith Herman

Spirituality

• A Course in Miracles

• A Handbook For Humanity: A Guide For Spiritual Progression – The Institute For Enlightenment

• A New Earth – Eckhart Tolle

• A Return To Love – Marianne Williams

• Acres of Diamonds – Russell Conwell

• Anatomy Of The Spirit – Carolyn Myss

• Any Title By – John A. Sanford

• Any Title By – Joel Goldsmith

• Awareness – Anthony DeMello

• Balcony People – Joyce Landorf & Heather Long

• Bluebirds – David Frasure

• Conversations with God…I, II, & III – Neale Donald Walsh

• Destiny Of Souls: New Case Studies of Life Between Lives – Michael Newton

• Even A Stone Can Be A Teacher – Sheldon Kopp

• Forgive & Forget: Healing The Hurts We Don’t Deserve – Lewis Smedes

• God On A Harley – Joan Brady

• Handbook To Higher Consciousness – Ken Keyes, Jr.

• Illusions – Richard Bach

• Journey Of Souls: Case Studies Of Life Between Lives – Michael Newton

• Law Of Attraction – Esther & Jerry Hicks

• Living On Purpose: Straight Answers To Life’s Tough Questions – Dan Millman

• Love Poems From God – Daniel Ladinsky

• Mr. God, This Is Anna – Fynn

• Mutant Message Down Under – Marlo Morgan

• No Ordinary Moments: A Peaceful Warrior’s Guide To Daily Life – Dan Millman

• Nothing By Chance – Richard Bach

• One Minute Wisdom – Anthony DeMello

• Richest Man In Town – V.J. Smith

• Sacred Journey Of The Peaceful Warrior – Dan Millman

• Seat Of The Soul – Gary Zukov

• Seven Spiritual Laws of Success: A Radical Guide To The Fulfillment of Your Dreams – Deepak Chopra

• Tattoos On The Heart: The Power Of Boundless Compassion – Gregory Boyle

• The Book Of Awakening: Have The Life You Want By Being Present To The Life You Have – Mark Nepo

• The Game of Life & How to Play It – Florence Scovel Shinn

• The Laws Of Spirit: Simple, Powerful Thoughts For Making Life Work – Dan Millman

• The Life You Were Born To Live: A Guide To Finding Your Life’s Purpose – Dan Millman

• The Path To Tranquility – His Holiness The Dalai Lama

• The Power Of The Spoken Word – Florence Scovel Shinn

• The Road Less Traveled – Scott Peck

• The Secret – Rhonda Byrne

• The Secret Door To Success – Florence Scovel Shinn

• The Song Of The Bird – Anthony DeMello

• The Spirituality of Imperfection: Storytelling & The Search For Meaning – Ernest Kurtz & Katherine Ketcham

• The Tao Of Pooh – Benjamin Hoff

• Unencombered Baggage – Tony DeMello

• Way Of The Peaceful Warrior – Dan Millman

• When God Winks At You: How God Speaks Directly To You Through the Power of Coincidence – Squire Rushnell

• Your Soul’s Plan & Discovering the Real Meaning Of The Life You Planned Before You Were Born – Robert Schwartz

• Your Word Is Your Wand – Florence Scovel Shinn

• Energy Medicine – Donna Eden

• Soul, Mind, Body Medicine: A Complete Soul Healing System For Optimum Health & Vitality – Dr. Zhi Gang Sha

• The Power Of Soul: The Way To Heal, Rejuvenate, Transform & Enlighten All Life – Dr. Zhi Gang Sha

Women & Fathers

• The Reconnection: Heal Others, Heal Yourself – Dr. Eric Pearl

• Fathers & Daughters: For Every Woman, The Startling Truth About You & The First Man In Your Life – William S. Appleton

• Women & Their Fathers : The Sexual & Romantic Impact Of The First Man In Your Life – Victoria Secunda

• The Wounded Woman: Healing The Father-Daughter Relationship – Linda Schierse Leonard